We have been trained up in this society where we can always have things our way and in so many cases, it’s true. We can go to a restaurant to order breakfast and tell them exactly how we want it cooked. “I’ll take my eggs over medium, crispy bacon, sour dough toast, pancakes and hot syrup on the side.” And that is great, but what would happen if we ordered breakfast and began telling them how we liked our eggs and they stopped us and said, “You can’t have them like that. We only serve scrambled eggs, blackened bacon, rye toast and cold syrup.”?
I can already hear some of the responses. “I’d just get up and leave.” “I would demand to talk to the manager.” “Well, that would be dumb, they’d lose a lot of business that way”. “What happened to the customer is always right??” We have been so spoiled that when we don’t get our own way, we either just walk away completely or demand to make it happen.
This may be fine at a restaurant. However, this seems to be carried on into our relationships with one another. We go into them like customers with expectations of what we want from that person instead of what we can give them. And when we don’t get what we were expecting, we begin demanding it or we just walk away. That’s not love.
When Jesus walked this earth, He came here only to serve and be used by God for YOU. It was never about what HE wanted. It wasn’t about HIS gain, but OURS.
To truly love our friends, our family, our neighbors…to truly love JESUS, we have to leave behind this “It’s all about me”, “what about what I want?” mindset. Start by praying and asking God to show you a need that you can fill for someone else, then…begin spreading the love.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. – Romans 12:9-10