Category Archives: Love is…

You’re Missing The Point!

I was reading today in John 6 and Jesus is talking to the people and He tells him that He is the bread of life and that whoever comes to Him will never be hungry or thirsty and those who come to Him will never be rejected. He tells them He came down from Heaven to do the will of God which is that He should not lose even one that has been given to Him but that He would raise them up to have eternal life!

But the people MISSED THE POINT!  They were so focused on negative that the only thing they heard was, “I am the bread that came down from Heaven” and they got jealous and had the “how can he be any better than us?” attitude.  “Who does he think he is? This is what it says in verses 41 and 42, Then the people began to murmur in disagreement because he had said, “I am the bread that came down from heaven.”  They said, “Isn’t this Jesus, the son of Joseph? We know his father and mother. How can he say, ‘I came down from heaven’?”

Jesus JUST said in verse 40, “For it is my Father’s will that all who see his Son and believe in Him should have eternal life”!  And they’re worried about Him being better than them? Are you serious??  He has a gift for you….despite who YOU are!

This would be like me getting up in front of all the people at my class reunion and saying, “I have inherited 100 million dollars from my dad and he gave it to me so that I could distribute it to all of you who come to me and ask so that you can have ALL of your needs taken care of.”

And instead of them saying, “Sweet!  Thank you! I accept!” They begin rolling their eyes and complaining to each other….“Who does she think she is? Isn’t that the girl who grew up down the block from us in Del City who’s dad was a boiler maker?”  They’d be missing the point!  There is a blessing to be seen here and you want to make something negative out of it?

How often do we miss it?  It’s raining and we say….“That just messed up our ball game”.  What about the beautiful shade tree that just got watered or the fruits and vegetables that (contrary to millennial’s beliefs)….do not just appear in the grocery stores!  Some farmer out there somewhere…needs that rain to bring you what you desire without YOU having to even labor for it.

How often are we so focused on everything negative in this world…or even what we portray to be negative that we completely miss ALL THE BLESSINGS of life??  How many unsaved people are out there missing the boat because they’re so full of pride that as soon as a believer speaks to them their first thought is, “Oh so you think you’re better than me?”

And as believers….are we missing it because we see so much negative that we have a hard time recognizing the goodness of God and the image of God even in those unbelievers?

Folks…..put those eclipse glasses back on.  The ones that made it possible for you to look at the sun!  You made a purchase…an effort…even took a risk to look at the light.  It was a breathtaking event!  Every day could be like that!  Don’t miss the point in this life…find the beauty in it, find the positives, seek them out, go against the norm and discover all the blessings that God has in store for you!


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Don’t Give the Enemy the Time Of Day!

My dad finished his last radiation treatment today! I’m so happy for him as well as extremely proud. When the doctor diagnosed him with cancer, he took the news like the champion he is! First thing he said is, “I know who my Healer is.”  He may have had an attack on his body, but he did not allow it to steal the peace and joy that God has placed in him. I think that’s HUGE!

He’s been having these treatments for 9 weeks now and when I shared that it was over today many people including a lot of family were surprised because they hadn’t heard anything about it.  So I wanted to kind of explain why that is.

When the enemy attacks whether it be with sickness, poverty, or maybe even from our own mistakes, we don’t see the need to shout it from the rooftops.  Why give the enemy that kind of glory?  Why give the devil a foothold by announcing the damage he is trying to cause, just to allow others to give their input into why this might be happening? (Lessons from Job, maybe??)

When the enemy attacks us physically, mentally, or emotionally we lean on our Lord for guidance and we confide in those closest to us for prayer and support.  In this case with my dad, he told his kids, his girlfriend and his siblings.  He felt that was enough and so did we.

Too many people throw all of their garbage out there for all to see and Satan just has a hey day with that.  What I want to announce to the world are the VICTORIES!  The fact that my dad went through 9 weeks of radiation and the only people who knew were those directly involved is a victory!  That tells me that my dad NEVER lost his peace!  This is not to bring condemnation to anyone who has went through this and struggled. I’m sure it’s not an easy thing to have to go through at all.

I mean this to be an encouragement to anyone going through something or who may go through something in the future.  Don’t give the devil even a pinky toe into your life.  Stand on God’s word that He will NEVER leave you, He will FIGHT for you and you WILL overcome!  Not everyone is going to be in agreement with you on this so take heed to what you proclaim and the influences and voices you allow to come into your life and your situation.

Psalm 8
1 O Lord, our Lord, your majestic name fills the earth!
Your glory is higher than the heavens.
2 You have taught children and infants
to tell of your strength, silencing your enemies
and all who oppose you.
3 When I look at the night sky and see the work of your fingers—
the moon and the stars you set in place—
4 what are mere mortals that you should think about them,
human beings that you should care for them?
5 Yet you made them only a little lower than God
and crowned them with glory and honor.
6 You gave them charge of everything you made,
putting all things under their authority(this includes cancer)
7 the flocks and the herds
and all the wild animals,
8 the birds in the sky, the fish in the sea,
and everything that swims the ocean currents.
9 O Lord, our Lord, your majestic name fills the earth!

(emphasis mine)

What Happened To Truth?

There are so many lies out there now…it’s really hard to say what is true and what isn’t.  Who is telling the truth…who is lying and who thinks they are telling the truth but in actuality, is spreading lies?

Turn on the news….what do we get?  Truth…. or lies?  Who really knows? Turn on your favorite preacher….is everything he says true? How do we know for sure?

So where do we go for truth?  Do we shine light on the lies to reveal truth or does that just bring focus and attention to it?

Just throwing this out there…..but could it be that we go directly to the source? Not the source of the lie….but to the source of truth!

I have a Father, a Best Friend, and a Comforter who I know for a fact can only speak what is TRUE!  THEY are my source.  That’s where I want to go for the facts.  My heart is filled with so much peace when I go to Jesus and allow Him to show me truth.  God is faithful to His Word. When it’s from the Holy Spirit, it is always filled with love and joy.  It gives me peace, not confusion.  I am patient in knowing when to speak.  Kindness  and goodness flow from my lips in a gentle way. I am full of self control and my heart is full of compassion and unity not torment or strife.

You can always find lies if you’re looking for them.  You will always believe lies if your seeking them.  Lies have never set anyone free.

So what would happen if we are just searching for truth?  We will find it and we will believe it and we will be set free!

“Jesus said to the people who believed in Him, “You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings.  And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”John 8:31-32

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blind manYou hear it all the time, “Why does it matter who I love?”  Usually this is coming out of the mouth of teenagers but all ages say this.  My opinion is….it doesn’t.  Jesus says, “Love everyone”.

So, I’m choosing to follow Christ and do just that.  Yes, I’m even going to love those who go against what I believe.  What I’m NOT going to love is the thief. Satan, who comes to steal, kill and destroy that love.

Think about it…people are being divided BY LOVE!  What a perfect plan of the enemy to use THAT to cause division among people.  God created us to love HIM…to have fellowship with HIM….and to be united with HIM for eternity!  Satan is getting people distracted from God’s love and focused on man’s love.

If any girl comes to me in distress because she doesn’t have a boyfriend or if she is brokenhearted because her boyfriend doesn’t “love her anymore”.  Do you know what I tell them?

First, let me tell you what I don’t tell them.  I don’t say, “Stop feeling that way towards them!”  Why not?  Because until they understand who God is in their lives, they don’t know how to “just stop feeling that way.”

We are trying to get the world to see something they can’t see.  It’s like trying to force a blind man to walk through a maze by just yelling at him from a distance; telling him he’s going the wrong way without offering to take his hand and lead him.

This is what I say to those ladies…I look them in the eyes and say, “Look, I know it’s not the same, but I think you’re awesome!  Even better though, God thinks you’re awesome too and He knows better than I do, because He made you.  Spend some time for yourself finding out how much He loves you.  He thinks you are so special and has amazing plans for your life!  He loves you SO much that He sent His Son to die for YOU.”

Then I follow up with praying for them and then texting or emailing them some encouraging scriptures for them to read for themselves.  Sometimes I will send them a book in the Bible to start reading in.

We have to plant a seed of God’s love into people’s lives.  That’s the only way to reach the world.  Be a light for them to follow.  Take their hand when needed and BE God’s love.

So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” – John 13:34-35

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feministrage“I’m just really irritable right now!” I think we’ve all said this at one time or another and really felt that way.  So what is irritable?  I looked it up and the definition says:  Having or showing a tendency to be easily annoyed or made angry; bad-tempered, short-tempered, touchy, grumpy, grouchy, or moody.

Jesus says we are supposed to love and 1 Corinthians13:5 says that love is not irritable.  Therefore, we are not supposed to be easily annoyed, grumpy or moody.

What?!  That’s impossible right!? I mean, we ARE human and those things DO happen.  We get grumpy, we lose our temper, we argue, and hey….as a woman, when it’s that certain time of the month…I have a RIGHT to be moody!  Am I WRONG??

Actually, yes I am.  Being irritable is a CHOICE (the wrong choice), not being irritable is a COMMAND.  And it’s a good command.  We need to learn to move on if we find ourselves becoming irritable.

I was reading this story about Isaac in  Genesis 26.  His servants had dug in the valley and discovered fresh water, but the shepherds came and there was an argument over it.  So they moved on and dug another well but then there was a dispute over that one too which caused hostility.  Again, they moved on and dug another well.  This time there was no dispute, there was open space, and they could prosper.

Isaac obviously knew there were better things out there so these wells weren’t worth the arguing and hostility.

You see, we can CHOOSE to stay in the mindset of being moody, annoyed or grumpy but we are CALLED to move on.  There is a life of blessings just waiting for you. Don’t allow irritability to get a hold of you.  Let things go, it’s not worth it.  LOVE EACH OTHER instead!

“Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5


jesus satisfiesI’m just going put it plain and simple…until we have found ourselves completely satisfied by the love Jesus showed to us when He gave His life on the cross, we will still be incomplete.  We will still be searching for, longing for, fighting for that man or woman who we THINK completes us. We will constantly be hoping and dreaming that they’re out there…somewhere… and that once we find them, THEN we will know true love.

Sorry, that’s just not the case.  Now don’t let this crash your dreams of meeting that special one that God has for you.  I’m just saying that THEY will not be the one who completes you and they cannot be the one who satisfies you.  My husband spoke on this Sunday. He said, “Only the One who made you, can complete you.”  I love that and it’s so absolutely true.

We should be complete BEFORE we enter into a relationship with someone else.  God is our designer, we are His masterpiece.  We need to fall in love with HIM.  We need to be satisfied with the love He has to offer us, the joy He has for us, and the blessings He is longing to pour out on us.  No other human being can provide that kind of comfort.  Quite frankly, it’s nor fair for us to even expect that from someone else.  Yet we do it all the time.  We go into relationships thinking that person completes us and when we finally realize they don’t, the search is on again trying to find one who does.

Save yourself the heartache….be complete in Christ first.  Don’t settle for anyone who isn’t.  Jesus is the ONLY one who satisfies!

“I pray that your love will overflow more and more, and that you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding.  For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return.  May you always be filled with the fruit of your salvation—the righteous character produced in your life by Jesus Christ[a]—for this will bring much glory and praise to God” – Philippians 1:9-11 NLT


Business CartoonWe have been trained up in this society where we can always have things our way and in so many cases, it’s true.  We can go to a restaurant to order breakfast and tell them exactly how we want it cooked. “I’ll take my eggs over medium, crispy bacon, sour dough toast, pancakes and hot syrup on the side.” And that is great, but what would happen if we ordered breakfast and began telling them how we liked our eggs and they stopped us and said, “You can’t have them like that.  We only serve scrambled eggs, blackened bacon, rye toast and cold syrup.”?

I can already hear some of the responses.  “I’d just get up and leave.”  “I would demand to talk to the manager.” “Well, that would be dumb, they’d lose a lot of business that way”.  “What happened to the customer is always right??”  We have been so spoiled that when we don’t get our own way, we either just walk away completely or demand to make it happen.

This may be fine at a restaurant.  However, this seems to be carried on into our relationships with one another.  We go into them like customers with expectations of what we want from that person instead of what we can give them.  And when we don’t get what we were expecting, we begin demanding it or we just walk away.  That’s not love.

When Jesus walked this earth, He came here only to serve and be used by God for YOU.  It was never about what HE wanted.  It wasn’t about HIS gain, but OURS.

To truly love our friends, our family, our neighbors…to truly love JESUS, we have to leave behind this “It’s all about me”, “what about what I want?” mindset.  Start by praying and asking God to show you a need that you can fill for someone else, then…begin spreading the love.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.  Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.Romans 12:9-10


boastful_person_tshirts-r585dd41b1be7474f98d285669ab68c8d_804g5_512Love is not boastful

boast·ful – ˈbōs(t)fəl/
adjective – showing excessive pride and self-satisfaction in one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.

It’s hard to show someone else love when we’re too focused on ourselves.  It’s difficult to carry on a conversation with someone when we’re thinking of all the great things we did that day.  We’re not listening to them, we’re just waiting for them to stop talking so we can share how awesome we are.  And no one has a chance to say, “Good job!” because we’ve already told them what a great job we’ve done.  Ever met that type of person? Ever BEEN that type of person?  I think we all have been honestly.

Matter of fact, Facebook and Instagram have become a perfect avenue for boasting.  I know that’s hard to consider, it’s hard for me too.  I look at things I’ve posted just this week and have to ask myself…was I being boastful?  I was actually tempted to skip this section in my “Love Is” category because the more I thought about what boasting is, the more I realized I do it!  That’s what I love about the word of God though.  It reveals things in us that need to be dealt with.  God says to love and He says that love is not boastful, so if that’s in me, I want it gone. Not addressing that in myself is being prideful and that’s the next thing that God says love is NOT.

To sum it up, we can’t glorify God if we’re busy glorifying ourselves.

Let someone else praise you, not your own mouth – a stranger, not your own lips. – Proverbs 27:2

Therefore, as the Scriptures say, “If you want to boast, boast only about the LORD.” – 1 Corinthians 1:31

Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up in honor. – James 4:10


jealousy-2Love is not jealous                                                       jeal·ous -ˈjeləs/  adjective – feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages, feeling or showing suspicion of someone’s unfaithfulness in a relationship, fiercely protective or vigilant of one’s rights or possessions.

I’m pretty sure I made myself a pro at this one!  I learned rather quickly (but not quickly enough) that love is NOT jealous.  When my husband (Reese) and I were first married I had so much jealousy in me I’m surprised I had room for any love!

I was jealous when he got called into full time MINISTRY and was able to quit his other job while I was still working at an office.  I was jealous of women who were talented enough to be up on stage with him during WORSHIP.  Yep, I said it…worship.  I was jealous of any time he was away from home at all which was pretty much just at the CHURCH or for the church.  Sounds like a straight out ploy of the devil, don’t ya think?  Or was it just a lack of self confidence?  I was making myself miserable because of jealousy. I loved my husband dearly, but wasn’t expressing it to him at all because I was too busy wanting things that didn’t belong to me.

I don’t know exactly when things changed for me in that area but I know how.  I asked God to search my heart and point out anything in me that was offensive to Him.  Jealousy was revealed rather quickly.  I began asking God what my purpose was.  He showed me first of all, that I am in the full time ministry as well and I am to serve beside my husband.   I was reminded that God handpicked my workplace out for me and that I was to be a light there for Him.  I had no idea that once that purpose was fulfilled He would allow me to work from home and be our children’s teacher, making that part of my full time ministry as well.

My eyes were opened up more and more as God began revealing the jealousy in my heart.  The women up on stage, they were using their talents to worship God and I wanted it so I could be closer to my husband! How ignorant is that?  On top of that, jealousy was blinding me of my own gifts and talents.  (I would discover those later) but for now, I was free to praise and worship God with a loving heart again.

The next thing I learned was that Reese’s time away from us was spent serving God…so really…I was jealous of God!  God, the One who GAVE me my husband.  How could I not be willing to share him?  Jealousy caused me to make my husband feel bad when he would leave for conferences or worship events or youth functions, etc.  He wasn’t even able to fully focus on what God wanted from him because of MY jealousy.  Once I saw this for what it was, my heart began to change.  Praise God my husband was patient with me during this time and still is.

I’m not saying I’ve perfected this, but I can definitely recognize it quicker and shut it down faster.  Just this past weekend he has been at a men’s retreat that I was actually excited for him to go on!  And I’ve also encouraged him to sign up for another one next year.  He will actually be going to one of my favorite places in the country but instead of being jealous, I’m praying about how God is going to move in his life and ours because of it.

Getting rid of jealousy has caused me to have more love for other people, my husband, myself, my children, and my God.  Love is NOT jealous.

Love is patient and kind.  Love is not jealous… 1 Corinthians 13:4


kindnessLove is kind
kind·ness ˈkīn(d)nəs/
noun  – the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
Love is being kind to your neighbor.  Get to know the people around you.  The store cashier, your waitress, your actual next door neighbor.  Be friendly, talk to them, ask them how their day is.  Be generous, pay for the person’s coffee behind you in line.  Mow your neighbors lawn.  Keep an eye on their house when they are out of town.  Be considerate.  Don’t park in front of their mailbox or let your dog do his business in their yard.  Let someone go ahead of you at the grocery store.  There are many ways to show love to our neighbors through kindness. I believe, however, that we can get in such a hurry to get our own things done that we don’t stop to even consider showing kindness towards others.  How can you be kind to a neighbor today?
Love is being kind to your family.  Many times our families seem to get the wrath of our frustrations.  If we’re mad at our boss, we don’t normally yell at them, instead we go home and take it out on our children or our spouse.  We don’t realize that our day would get much better if we came home and showed kindness to our family instead.  I believe many of us just assume our family should know we love them so we don’t put any effort into keeping them in our lives like we may do with friends.  Yet when our children move away, or when our spouse is tired of being treated wrong, we’re going to really wish we had shown them more love by being kind.  Love on your family today through kindness.
Love is being kind to God.  Yes, it’s true, we can treat God with un-kindess and many people do.  Using His name in vain, throwing it out there like a curse word.  Blaming Him for things that we have brought on ourselves.  Only talking to Him when we really need something.  We need to be kind to God just like we need to be kind to our friends and family.  We need to have a relationship with God which comes from visiting with Him daily, loving on Him, showing Him respect, praising Him for ALL things.
God has gone way out of His way to show us His love through kindness. (Remember, kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate).  God came to earth in the flesh to befriend us sinners.  Giving His life as a sacrifice for ours, which was an extremely generous gift!  And He is considerate of the fact that we just can’t do it on our own so He allows Himself to live inside of us to be our helper.  God is so kind! Shouldn’t we be?

Love it patient, love is kind….

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.  Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. –                            1 Corinthians 13:4-7


patience-quoteLove is patient
1pa·tient adjective \ˈpā-shənt\
: able to remain calm and not become annoyed when waiting for a long time or when dealing with problems or difficult people
: done in a careful way over a long period of time without hurrying

Love is being patient with your child.  I’m just assuming your child is many years behind you, so why expect them to know everything you know?  How long did it take you to learn to tie your shoes, to read and write, to figure out which friends to choose?

Children have a slower response time than adults.  Give them a minute to comprehend what you’re saying before you scold them for not listening.  We also expect them to run to keep up with us and they have to because their legs are more than likely shorter than ours.  But why don’t we slow down for them?  What’s our hurry?  Is it because you’re running late all the time?  Check out “God Margins” parts 1, 2, and 3 here.  This should help you out in that area.

Love is being patient with your spouse.  They are of the opposite sex. Therefore, they think differently than you do, so it may take you a while to understand where they’re coming from.  My husband is extremely patient with me, and I’m so grateful for that.  I know he hasn’t quite figured me out (still working on that myself) but he has learned the concept of patience and helped me with it as well.

Love is being patient with unbelievers.  You can’t force someone into believing in Jesus, so just be there for them.  That way when they are ready, they know they can come to you.  How long was it before you gave your life to Christ?  For me, it was 25 years.  What if God hadn’t been patient with me?  What if the people He placed in my life to lead me to the Lord hadn’t been patient with me?  I don’t want to even consider where my life would be right now.

Love is patient in LIFE!  For example, traffic.  My husband touched on this in his sermon yesterday.  We get in such a hurry driving that we’re willing to pull over onto the shoulder, where all the debris is, just to get ahead.  We’re willing to put ourselves and others in a dangerous situation because we’re not patient with who’s ahead of us.  We need to slow down and understand that we will get where God wants us to in His timing.  We just need to be patient in getting there.  What better way to show God how much we love Him than by being patient and trusting Him to do things His way instead of our own?

Love it patient and so much more, but can we at least start there?

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.  Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. –                            1 Corinthians 13:4-7